August 25, 2020
Approximately one out of every two marriages today ends in divorce and a large portion of these families include children. Divorce can be traumatic to children creating intense emotions that cause conflicted feelings towards each of the parents. Children can feel fearful, confused, insecure, vulnerable, depressed, angry and overwhelmed. Children may act out by getting into more trouble, disrespecting others, displaying disobedience, and becoming angry. They may also act inwardly by developing excessive anxiety, depression, low self-esteem and isolation. Children do best when parents can cooperate on behalf of the child and do not display aggression towards each other or use negative language towards the other parent in front of the children. Children are usually better off if they can have regular contact with both parents in addition to having as stable a home environment as possible. Counseling can help both the divorcing parents and the children within the family to cope with the changing dynamics. By seeking the help of a professional child therapist who specializes in divorce, children can learn to cope with divorce, allowing them to express their own feelings about this event. Divorce therapy for children provides the support children need in order to express their emotions in safe, non-abusive, non self-destructive manner. Children usually need to be taught how to cope and how to express emotions in a safe way. Dr. Lisa Saponaro specializes in Family Mediation, with more than a decade of experience working with children and families, she is able to facilitate all steps of a marital dissolution, particularly the factors related to co-parenting. The focus and commitment should remain on the children providing the common ground necessary in order to create a successful parenting plan. Effective October 1, 2008, Florida statutes require that all parties filing for divorce complete a parenting plan. According to the statutes (Ch. 2008-61 section 13), “Parenting plan means a document created to govern the relationship between the parties relating to the decisions that must be made regarding the minor child and shall contain a time-sharing schedule for the parents and child. By no means is divorce easy on any of the family members who are involved but divorce counseling can make coping easier and enable children to release the mass of emotions felt during divorce for health and well being. Dr. Saponaro involves children’s relevant support systems into treatment and works with parents to find the common ground necessary to parent effectively. Dr. Saponaro’s strength is ability to help identify and prioritize the needs of the children while still respecting the process of the adults involved.